Hello! I'm Stone (he/they). I grew up in China and immigrated with my family when I was 17. I started my career in Nanotechnology Engineering. Struggling to find meaning in it, I was burnt out and unsatisfied while dealing with difficult Asian parents who argued 8 days a week and expected me to become a doctor or businessman.
That’s when I switched to Psychology, and I had 3 motivations: to help with my parents’ struggles, to figure out myself, and to build a healthy relationship.
The results? I learned to radically accept my parents' limitations on the first one (aka “letting go”) and to set emotional boundaries, which is quite opposite to the Chinese familial culture. They eventually adapted. I did accomplish the other two. Through my ongoing inner work, I’ve learned to love myself, face my difficult emotions, build healthy relationships, and find profound meaning in this life.
Through my mid-20s, I went through a spiritual crisis and deconstructed my fundamentalist/evangelical background after taking some biblical courses. I have now landed at the intersection of mediation and yoga (Hinduism), Jesus's teachings, new-age spirituality, transpersonal psychology, somatic psychology, and psychedelics. I founded the Hamilton Conscious Collective in 2024 to help create a community for alternative and eclectic spirituality.
A breakthrough in my healing and growth is due to my profound experiences with psilocybin mushrooms and other psychedelics. These experiences have uncovered suppressed/neglected feelings, helped to release a lot of my somatic energy, and deconstructed my limiting beliefs. I have become more confident, present, open, and joyful, which has tremendously helped with my professional life and family life.
Psychedelics have also expanded my views on romantic relationships and sex. Having been a couples therapist for 5 years, I've seen so much of the shadow side of the traditional monogamous paradigm. I've been reflecting and learning about alternative relationship structures and sexual practices.
You can read a more detailed version of my spiritual journey here: https://www.stonefu.ca/blog
In my late 20s, I was diagnosed with ADHD after the stress of childcare bringing out more ADHD symptoms. Since then, I've done extensive learning on ADHD treatment strategies. I've helped many of my clients navigate ADHD diagnosis, medication, symptom management, and its impact on their relationships. I also co-lead an ADHD therapy group.
I love reading! I read about 20-40 books/audiobooks a year to expand my knowledge. I also enjoy video games like PUBG and Sword and Fairy. I recently discovered EDM and have been enjoying ecstatic dances and raves.
I now live in Hamilton, Ontario with my partner and two young kids.
My mission is to guide and inspire more people to reach higher levels of consciousness and to better the world for future generations through community building and collective healing.
Besides regular psychotherapy, these are what I've been working on:
- Pioneered a thriving psychedelic harm reduction program from scratch at a local clinic. Co-developed therapeutic protocols and operational flow. Collectively, we've provided psychedelic services to more than 100 clients, directly working with psychedelic medicines.
- Co-developed and oversaw a Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy program at the local clinic.
- Conducting 1-2 psychedelic harm reduction sessions (Psilocybin and MDMA) per week, including psychedelic screening, preparation, and integration
- Trained and oversaw other clinicians in psychedelic-assisted therapy.
- Psychedelic integration groups
- Working with couples since 2021, with and without medicine
- Started and led a local psychedelic community: Hamilton Psychedelic Society (now Hamilton Conscious Collective)
- Pioneered monthly psychedelic medicine circles in Hamilton